How to Tell Someone You Love Them

Relationships, Communication

How to Tell Someone You Love Them

How to Tell Someone You Love Them

You have come across that special someone of your dreams. They are attractive both inside and outside and you would really like to be with them… this feels like love. It must be a very exciting time for you. But also how on earth do you tell someone you love them? The more you think about it, the crazier it can seem. And you wonder how would they react. You don’t want to look like a clown. This is where you should keep on reading to help decide on the best approach on how to say “I Love You”.

1. Make Sure that They Know it Beforehand

It would sound really strange if all of a sudden you say it. So the first step is to get them to realize you are interested in them, this can be achieved by flirting. Being friends is a good start. And do just exactly what friends do… hang out. Typically friends talk casually and maybe meet up with a bunch of other friends for a good time. And while the hanging out is going on, when possibly, discreetly give a little more attention to that person. Make more conversation, pop in a little compliment from time-to-time, do little favors for them and take an interest in what they like. Show them that you enjoy their company immensely. And if you love them this shouldn’t really be a task at all. You will know that person has figured it out as they respond to you in a positive and similar manner.

How to Tell Someone You Love Them

How to Tell Someone You Love Them

2. Find the Right Time and Place

Time and place are everything. If you don’t calculate it right they may take you the wrong way or not even gather what you said at all. Thus consider the following points and choose a way that best suits your situation the most.

  • In Person, In Private

    Saying it in person is considered the most effective way to tell someone you love them. Since it takes a lot of guts to admit it and is definitely comes off as a sign of sincerity on your part. Pick a place such as at the park, after school or work and so forth. Where no one can overhear and which allows you to focus on what you would like to say without being disturbed.

  • After You Have Been Apart for Sometime

    Emotions are at their highest when you have been apart for some time. And if they love you too they will also feel more loving due to the circumstances. By this time you will be bursting so much with love that your honesty will show through very easily.

  • Write a Love Letter

    For you, this is a good option if you have a creative bone in you and allows plenty of time to get the words out just right. But do consider if a love letter is appropriate for them. Possibly they may find it very romantic or lackluster as it is not an in-person approach.

  • Send a Love Message

    The same can be said with sending a message over chat. If you definitely know that they would love it then, by all means, go ahead.

  • During a Late Night Call

    Only do this if you are already in the habit of talking to each other over the phone otherwise, this too could sound strange for them.

How to Tell Someone You Love Them

How to Tell Someone You Love Them

3. Say It from the Heart

Now that the foundation has been established, this is a great time to let them know. Not so much thought is needed because your feelings should naturally dictate what you would like to say. When you try too hard with put more thought and planning it can easily just mess you up. Furthermore, you may come off looking odd than heartfelt which people love to look for in a partner.

4. Keep It Simple

Keep it simple and focus on saying “I love you” only for the clearest and understandable message If you really do wish to add something more, give them a reason why you love them. Maybe on how you appreciate them their skill, character, and personality. And the times you enjoyed being together. Remember short and simple will come across easy to listen to. And if you ramble on this usually sounds unnecessary and can confuse them on what you really wanted to say.

5. Stay Calm and Confident

Strong emotions can get in the way and again mess up the message you want to perfect. And understandably, emotions are high, you love them and it requires strength to be open and to declare your feelings. So if you sense your body might play up. Before saying it, take a deep breath, focus on steady breathing. Sit down comfortably, you want less distraction as a possible. And be direct with your words, neither flounder around, backtrack and say it with a purposeful voice – with a steady and clear sound. Practice can also help, so say it a few times to yourself or allow a trusted person to hear you before you make the big move.

How to Tell Someone You Love Them

How to Tell Someone You Love Them

6. Show Them How you Feel

You can show them how you feel without using words and is more suitable for those who find it hard to say it. But the main thing here is you want to avoid being creepy. Again if appropriate, you can try giving a small give, nothing too big and fancy. Especially one with a lot of thought to it and where you tried to get a gift that they would actually enjoy. Handmade gifts are usually more appreciated for the fact you can show that you put time and effort and show off a talent

7. Don’t Expect Anything in Return

Once said, reassure them that you don’t expect anything from them. Because at the end of the day you can’t control what others think of you. If they don’t respond, either give them some time and space to think it over. And if they are not reciprocal. At the very least you can be friends, since at the end if it is love then all you want is to see them happy. And when you think about it, at least you tried otherwise you would have never known. For those that said yes, good on you for being open to sharing your feelings.

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