As parents, it’s a dream to see our children rise to success. And the basis to this – good grade for the most part. Though frustratingly distractions are galore, friends, TV and mobiles. If they could they can be glued to it for hours on end. And on the suggestion of study, at an instant they turn their backs on it. So what can we do to motivate our children? There is the dictator route but what if I said we can still get them to study in a stern yet friendly way. It’ll be a win-win situation for both parent and child. And no parent would need to play the ‘Bady’. Let’s see how we can take that weight off your shoulders.
Motivate Children to Study
1. Encourage them to Express Themselves
Too often, parents fall into the mode of telling their children what, when and how to do things. And most of all, expecting them to act accordingly. That sounds correct, that’s what parents are responsible for. However, this gets children into the habit of believing they need to do what they are told. However, as a result, they are unable to think and rationalize for themselves and express emotions openly that then leads to bottled-up stress.
We need to remember that children are people too who will grow up to be adults. And also, accept that parents can’t watch over them 24 hours, daily. Thus, give them space to express themselves by making conversation and asking questions along the lines of how do they feel and think. This, in turn, encourages them to be open with you, feel a sense of relief and opening the chances for acceptance and understanding on such aspects as study.
2. Help Organize their Paper Work
Books upon books, bunches of worksheets, notices to keep track of, tests every week, ongoing exams and assignments and projects due every other day. That’s a lot of things to remember and do even for an adult. For many children, you’d wonder why they’d avoid study like the plague. Such a burden with the workload alone is a lot to take. To lessen the pressure, sit down with your child and organize their paperwork. Use folders to separate by subject, highlight their diary, and break up study material and assignments into smaller manageable bite size pieces they can work on day-by-day.
3. Take Breaks
Studying hours on end and every day straight makes for studying hard but is that smart studying? Most likely, you’ll be tired and lose concentration thus, chances for retaining such information is low. Study every consecutive day and eventually, you’ll burn out sooner or later. This is why taking breaks is a must. In addition, it can be quite motivating for students to return to study. Use shorts breaks to stretch out the body. After completing a section have a small treat like a toffee or use
In addition, it can be quite motivating for students to return to study. Use shorts breaks to stretch out the body. After completing a section have a small treat like a toffee or use a 30-minute break to watch their favorite TV program. And possibly earn bigger breaks and rewards, such as visiting friends or family outing. To regulate their, good rule to have in place can be that they can repeat the break only when they have completed some more studies again.
4. The Reward System
Again with reward systems use them only when some study has been completed. Neither use them only when they get good grades. As some students even with studying hard may not achieve outstanding results. For effective motivation celebrate every success (even keeping up your studying is a form of success). Acknowledge an average student and reward the effort they put in. O doing so, be rest assured your student is on their way to being self-motivated. When they are not acknowledged with rewards for good study habits they can de-motivate easily.
On the other extreme, nor over indulge in rewards without putting some constant effort into studying either. As children will then naturally assume why to bother with study when they get what they want anyway.
6. Avoid Focusing on the Negatives
School workload is already a burden. Then to have parent’s expectations places further burden. Now not to say have no expectations at all. They can actually be good since children will live life knowing the greater value and importance of education. Though, it can be destructive too, to the point of demolishing any sense of willingness to study sincerely. This happens when parents preach and threaten their child persistently. No child is encouraged by being constantly reminded about class rank, percentiles and making mistakes that they can’t attend a good college and attain a good job.
Rather refocus that energy into supporting your child in a positive light that’s far more productive. One way can be to get your child to beat their personal best. Focus on areas such as increasing speed and accuracy and covering ‘x’ amount of study material in a certain time frame. This can equally increase the chances of greater grades in consecutive tests and parent-teacher meeting reports. But the takeaway here is that it’s created in a self-motivating manner.
7. Turn Everyday Experience into Learning Opportunities
Books and lecture type education is common place particularly in Asia even for those that claim to develop the personality in students. And typically children are learning concepts that they have never seen for themselves. Although, education and learning can be found everywhere around us, including outside the school. As parents we can use such opportunities to our children’s benefit. Just to mention a few ideas to get you started, learn mathematics through cooking and baking, learn science through weather and geography, sociology and history by traveling to various places within your own city. Being exposed to as many experiences as possible too can reinforce and make better sense of the school curriculum.
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