Breakup Hone Par Apne Aapko Kaise Sambhalein

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Breakup Hone Par Apne Aapko Kaise Sambhalein

Breakup Hone Par Apne Aapko Kaise Sambhalein

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Agar aapka breakup hua hai to aap isse relate kar sakeinge. Ye bahut painful hota hai… aapne jis person par apna sab kuchh laga diya …apna time, energy, emotions, care… love. Aur baad mein usko apni life se jaate dekhna , usko khona aapko tord deta hai. Aur aap par haavi ho jaata hai, sab kuchh bikhar kar dhundla sa ho jata hai. Aap sochte hain ki ye khabhi nahin khatam hoga. Par sab kuchh yahin nahin khatam hojata. Ye aapki beginning hai, thodi si guidance se aap breakup se apne aap ko sambhal sakte hain aur apni life ko normal bana sakte hain. Inn tips ka use karein aur apne aap ko ek nayi shuruat dein.

1. Breakup Offline Aur Online

Relationship khatam hogayi to aapke saare online aur phone activities bhi khatam ho jaani chahiyein. Bahut baar aapka dil karta hai ki aap unke post updates check karein ki uski life mein kya chal raha. Lakin usse koi faiyda nahin. Aapko lagta hai ki aapke paas chance hai uss person ko life mein dubaara lane ke liye. Lakin bas yahin ruk jaayein, aap guzre zamaane mein jeena chhod dein ye sirf aapki thinking hai aur kuchh nahin. In sab ke bajaaye aapko apne future ke bare mein sochna chahiye aur ek nayi shuruat karni chahiye. Isliye unko unfriend karein, block aur kisi bhi tarah ke contacts se door rahein kuchh time ke liye. Yaad rakhiye ki ab sab khatam ho gaya. Aur zara bhi unka aapki lie mein presence aapko help nahin kareiga sab kuchh bhoolnein mein.. Aap iss time ko jaldi se jaldi guzaarna chaheinge.

How to Deal With a Break Up

2. Sab Kuchh Nikaal Dein

Agar aapko gussa aa raha ya aap upset hain aur ya phir sad hain to ye sab feeling natural hai. Kuchh logon ko lagta hai ki woh akele hain aur apni baat kisi se kehna nahin chate to unko Botal ki zaroorat lagti hai. Par aisa nahin hai. apni feelings ko chhupaane se kuchh nahin hota lambe time mein ye aapko nuqsaan pahuchata hai. Aap kya prefer karte hain usko likh lein. Doosron ko padhane ki zaroorat nahin. Iska main maqsad ye hai ki aapke andar job hi hai woh bahar nikal jaaye. Kuchh logon ko drawing karna pasand hota hai to kuchh apne pillow to ghoose maar kar apni bhadaas nikalte hai to kuchh gaane likhkar.

3. Baat Karein

Apne room mein upset hokar baithna ye first stage hai lakin jab aap kisi apne jis par aap bharosa karte hain, apne dil ka haal batate hain to aapko bahut sukoon milta hai. Thodi si himmat karke agar aap kisi ko apne mann ki baat bata pate hain to isse achchhi baat aur kuchh nahin ho sakti. Jisse aap apni baat batayein woh aisa person ho jo aapki baat ko samjhey aur aapki baat ko gossip na banaye sab jagah. Aise mein aapko kuchh bhi aisa nahin karna chahiye aur kehna chahiye jisse baad mein aapko pachhtawa ho.

How to Deal With a Break Up

4. Apni Care Karein

Aksar jab humara breakup hota hai to hum apne aap par control kho baithte hain. Aur apni health aur apna khayaal nahin rakhte. Aapko bhook nahin lagti, proper khana nahin khate. Kuchh log junk food khaane lagte hain. (ice cream bahut popular hai aise time mein ) isse over eating hoti hai. kum khaane aur over-eating dono se hi aapki tabiyat kharab ho sakti hai. Bahut log dull ho jate hain aur saara kaam kaaj chhod dete hain, poora din baithey rehte hain isse woh emotionally aur physically thak jate hain. Isse aapko bahar aana hoga. Theek tarah khaiye, properly sleep lijiye aur apni body ko move kariye. Jab aapka healthy routine hoga tabhi to aapko positive light dikhegi.

5. Thoda time Dein

Jaise sabhi cheezein badalti hain aur adjustment mein time lagta hai waise hi ismein bhi thoda time lagta hai. Ji haan aapko shuruat mein lagega ki ab aap kabhi bhi normal nahin ho payeinge. Par thoda time guzarne ke baad ek month, half year aur kabhi ek saal aap ki feeling aur emotions sab normal ho jaiyge aur nayi chhezein, events, phases, naye Log, aapki life mien aajainge aur past sirf ek memory reh jaiga. Believe karein, confident rahein aur thoda sa patience rakhein sab kuchh sahi ho jaiga.

How to Deal With a Break Up

6. Apni Position Ko Samjhein

Life seedhi aur aasaan nahin hai jaisi hum chahte hain. Isko parh kar aap motivated feel kar rahe honge. Hum humans aise hi hain aur hum bahut baar girte aur sambhalte hain. Aksar hum aisi cheezein kar baithtey hain jo hamein help nahin karti. Isliye har month apne aapko assess karein aur sochein ki jo aap kar rahe hain woh sahi hai ki nahin. Isse aapko pata chal sakega ki aap kya karna chahte hain aur kay akar rahe hain.

Jitna aap feel karoge utna hi aap upset hoge. Isse aap nakal sakte hain ek healthy manner mein. Ek ek din karke time ko lein aur thoda thoda apne aapko adjust karein situation ke hisaab se. All the best.

Untill next time.
Jasmine

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    1. Maira naam rachnarajput h mera aim police inpecter bnana h leakin m apni life m sb kuchh chhrrd k ek ldke se pyar kiya tha us ne m.sath dokha kiya ab smjh ni aata kya karu

      1. Hi Rachna, Abhi bhi bahut der nahin huyi aap apna aim poora kariye aur aise insaan ke baare mein bhool jaiye jo aapke ke layak nahin. Positive rahiye aur life ko enjoy kareiye. take care.

        1. Meri gf ti m use bht chta ta or chta hu pr usne mje syd use kia as tym paas. Ple vade kie 2 sal k relation k bd mje lga gr m bt krni chie to ki but vo mukr gyi fr hm dubra bte hui pr vo hmsa bolti k sadi ni kregi ab. Jb sadi ni hogi to kese tym pas kr skte h hmri b feeling hoti h…

      2. Hi
        Rachna
        Pahle to aap ko ye sochna chahiye ki aap ka aim kya h aur aap uske liye kitne responsible hin.chalo pyar ho gaya aur ab dhoka v mil gaya to kya apki life or ambition bhi khatm ho gayi.nahi ab apko chahiye ki un bato ko bhul kar apne life me aage badhe.ek baat yad rakhn apne aap ko kavi tutne mat dena kyu ki tute makan ka itt tak log le ke chale jate h..suseon acha lage to rply kRnA

    2. my name is Medy…
      bhai me ek ldki se pichhle 8 salo se bahot pyar krta hu or wo bhi mjhse utna hi pyar krti h lekin abhi mjhe pta chal ki uski life me koi or ldka h pichhle 4 5 salo se mjhe ye bat ab pta chali fir bhi me uske sath relation rkhna chahta hu lekin wo ladki kehti h ki wo us bande ko bhi nhi chhod skti or mere bina reh nhi skti….
      plz koi meri help kro yarr ki me kyaa kru.. kaise manau me use….
      plz help me….

      Medy…

      1. Bhai us larki ko kaho kisi ek ko chunle warna mai tumhe chor duga yahi sahi h bhai agar WO tumse sachha pyr karti h tu tmhe chn legi

  1. sir agar na chah ke v ghar walo ki khusi ke liye apne pyar ko kurban de to fir ham apna pyar ko kaise bhul sakte h..bahut taklif hoti h sir

  2. Mai apne bf ko bahut pyar krti ho bahut Jada pr hm dono ki shadi nh ho sakti kyun hm dono ke family vale nh man rh hai ladke ke bade Bhai or meri mummy nh man rh hai or mere bf ki shadi KR rh hai uske bade Bhai vo kh rha ki agar hm tmse bt krte rhenge to shadi nh kr payenge mai kya kru bahut akelapan lgta uske bina

  3. hi sir mai bahut dukhi hoon im 40years old man kuch din pehle meri wife ki death ho gayi thi woh 38years ki thi hamari shadi 2000 ko hue thi woh mujhe bahut pyar karti thi mai bhi bahut pyar karta thA ab uske begaad jane ka mann nahi karta uski bahut yaad aati hai din raat rona aa jata hai mera mann suicide karne ko karta hai magar hamari beti hai uski yaad aa jati hai uska kya hoga isliye suicide bhi nahi kar sakta plz aap batao uski yaad kaise bhoolon nahi tu mai yaad mai kahi depress mai na aaa jaon
    plz aap kuch batao

  4. Mr
    Vicky
    Mai apke dard ko samjh sakta hu.pr kya life me yaad hi sab kuchh hai apki .jara soche ki yadi aap suside karte hain to apke bad bachhi ka ya hoga .kya aap chahte h ki aap ki bacchi v wahi kare jo aap karna chahte hain.din raat yaad karke rone se behtar hoga ki bachhi ki carriers ko prayriti de is se apko unki yaad bhi kan aaye gi or bachhi ki life bhi banega.yahi unke prati aap ki sachhi wish hogi.for any help plz rply

  5. hii mene ek ladki se 2 saal tak one side love krta
    tha fir wo ek din meri life me aa hi gyi or sirf 5 months sath rahi or aaj bina reason chor Kar chle gyi… boht dard hora hai

  6. Mera name roshni hy,,,my karnatak me rehne vali ho,,
    Mai ek ladke se bahut pyar karti ho,, o b mujhe pyar karta hy lkn o mujhe baht attitude dekhata hy aur jhagad ta rehta hy,,, mai uske gusse aur attitude sambhalte aayi ho,,, usne mere call msgko ignr karta hy,,, kbhi call kiya to kheta hy friends ke sath ho,,, msg kiya to 2,3 hour ke bad reply karta,,, jab my gusse cal kiya attitude dekhta,,, muje aisa lagta hy ke my uski kat putli jo o mujhe khelata rehta hy,,,, my usse bht pyr karti,,, uski gusse aur attitude toudne ke liye mujhe hlp karo

    1. Hi Roshni,

      Agar aap dono ek doosre se pyaar karte hain hain to aisa nahin hona chahiye. par agar woh aapko bahut attitude dikha raha hai aur aapke pyaar ki kadar nahin kar raha to aap thoda back step lein aur apne aap aur ussko time dein ye samajhne ke liye aap ek doosre ke liye kya maane rakhte hain… thoda door rahiye usse usko ehsaas hone dein ki usse aapki zaroorat hai… Jab aapp dono thoda door raheinge to dono ko time mmilega. ek doosre ko miss kareinge… ye pyaar ke liye achchha hota hai…. All the best

  7. Apne pyaar ko bhulana agr itana aasaan hota to sb khush rahte
    Sb apne life ko enjoy kr lete,
    But Hm jisase pyaar kar lete hai ‘pyaar to kiya ni jaata ho jata hai’ use apni is importent life ka hissaa isqdr bna lete hai ki agr wo na mile to Kya Jeena Kya marna sb ek sa ho jata hai
    Yahi wajah hai ki hm unhe ek time k baad laakh bhulane mi kosis bhi kar le Ankho me jo khubsurat cheharaa Dillo jaan pr chha gaya ho use bhulane ka v man nahi karta.
    Itana difficult ho jata hai .
    Aur to Aur Agr kosis v kare to dil ko Itana dard hota hai ki
    Jo lafz kabhi socha nahi unke lie aaj kaise soche

    Par dosto ye baat to ap logo ko pata hi hai
    ” Time is powerful”
    Ye sb kuch Badal ke rakh Deta hai.
    Par fir bhi hamaara atit hmara picha nahi chodata.
    To ek chota sa suggestion hai ap logo se ki agr ap apne pyaar ko bhulana chahenge to ye sach hai ki jb tak Ap mar na jaoge Nahi Bhul paaoge.
    Bs usaki yaadon aur apne pyaar ko ek time dijie bs use ek bar yaad kariye aur koi bhi work kariye to ye soch lijie ki usi k lie kar rahe hai Mere Aisa karne se use khusi milegi bs wahi kariye
    Jo ap logo ne wada kia h un hasin lamhon me wahi kariye apko
    Bahut hi jyada relax milega …
    Apki hi tarah maine bhi pyaar kiya hai..
    Aur thaan liya hai wo na sahi to koi baat nahi mai to hu Karunga pyaar use Marte dam tak..
    Taaki mera sachha pyaar to rahe..
    Ye bahut hi kathin hai.
    Par fir v hai …

    Thanx dear true lovers

  8. A very very thank you sir mae do din sae theek sae sai ne thi pr ab phadnae k bad dil ko bahut sakoon mila h u r great thanxxx….

  9. Hello sir. Me hu sanam. .me ek ladke se bht pyr krtihu lkn wo chhoti si bat ko lekr distance maintain kia. Bht bht dard hotahe lkn kya kru. Ms u lot. Thanks sir apka tips ko try krunga.

  10. hi
    sir
    mera naam chasmi ha
    maine do saal aek ladki se pyr kiya aur fir aek month pehli wo mji bina batya kuch mjse dor chala gaya
    khali itna bola mere behan ni tera sms pada usne papa ko bola pappa ni mji ghar se niklni ko bola ya chasmi ko chodni ko bola
    tb se na sms na ph 2 mnth hovi usne mji mere kya galty thi ye bh nhi bola mai us se bohat pyr krty ho kya wo mjse pyr nhi karta tha
    in last tak us mai koi change nhi aye lkn ab achnak itne badi change mji pagal kar rhi hai wo meream gona mad plz give me sugesion

  11. Hlo mam,
    Mera nam Tanuj hai aur mai almora (uttarakhand) mai rahta hu. Mai aur neha meri girlfriend 2004 se ek dusre se pyar karte the hamara pyar 2012 tak chala uske bad pata nahi use kya hua usne mujhe fon karna chhod diya na milne aati hai. Ek dam se sath chhod diya maine kaha meri galati kya hai par wo har bar alag alag bate karke tal deti. Kuch aphwahe bhi feli k uska kahi aur setting chal ri h par hakikat mujhe aj tak nahi pata. Pichle 2012 se mai usse bhulne ki kosis kar rha hum agar nahi ho par ha hu sab bate yad aati ham kaha ghumne gaye kaha kaha mile uski letter photo sab mere pas aj bhi hai. Mai kuch books bhi padi usme pyar ko bhulane k tarike diye the par kuch nahi hua mere dosto ne bhi samjhaya par koi fayada nahi kitni bar soch sociade kar lu fir family ka khayal aaya.
    Mam aj mai almora mai savida par job karta hu par mai chahta hu k apni tayyari karke parmanent job mai lagu aur us Sali ko dikha du k tune kise reject kiya hai par mam padai mai man ni lag ra hai jaise hi padne baithata hu uski yad aati hai fr padai ni kar pata hu.
    Ishliye mam plz kuch tarika bataye mai bahut jada paresan hu meri maddat kijiye nahi to mai sociade kar lunga mam plz jo ap kahengi m wo karunga meri maddat kijiye mam. Agar apse face to face milna possible ho to bata dijiye meri email id kumar.tanuj75@gmail.com. Plz help meeeeeee

    1. Tanuj abhi aapki poori life padi hai…. koi aapko chhor ke chala gaya ismein uska nuk saan hai… usne ek bahut pyaar karne waala insaan kho diya… Par life bahut badi hai …. aur bahut mazadaar bhi… enjoy your life… apne aapko busy kariye… apne doston ke saath enjoy karein… aur bahut saari success hasil kijiye… All the best.

      1. wo to thik h sab iska solution busy hi raho kahte h par jab padane baithta hu usi time jada yad aati h 12 sal bhulana bahut kathin h

    2. Meri bhi halat eisi hi he dost me bhi kisi SE sacche dil SE like kiya magr our vo apne gharwalo SE darkar mujhe call karna hi chod diya mera kisi kam me mann bhi nahi lagta

  12. Mera breakup 1 year phle hua tha lekin aaj.bhi aisa lgta hai jaise kal.ki hi baat hai sab kuch bht yaad ata hai aur aisi koi raat nhi hoti jis din mai use yaad krke roya naa hu kitna bhi bhulna chahu nhi bhul pata aur sbse bdi baat to ye hai ki mai itta preshan hu ye baat kisi se share bhi nhi kar skta smjh nhi ata kya kru shyad mera luck hi khrab hai plz suggest me what should i do plz

  13. Mera breakup 1 year phle hua tha hum dono ek dusre k sath bahut khus the fir achank pta nhi kya hua usne mjhe chor dia mai bht roya bhulna chahta hu fir bhi nhi bhul pata hu

  14. Hello member mera name ashika h me ashu se bht pyar krti hu aur uske bina rah nhi sakti hu 😒😒 pr meri life me Ek aur ladka aa gya h aur me uske sath ni rbna chahti aur ye sb khuch ashu ko pta chal gya h hmare relationship k bare me me abi b ashu se bht pyar krtI hu aur ashu ne mere sath abi tk puri imandarI se rista nibhaya h mene dhoka diya h ashu ko pls btaye me kya kru me uske bina ni rah sakti hu me bht tension me hu

  15. So thanks, main ne is bare me kafi post ka mutalya kiya mgr kuch faida kuch hasil na hua.
    Ap ki post dekh kar dill ko sakoon mila ap ki post achi lagi.
    kyon k main b ek insan ko apne dill se nikalne me nakaam raha hun. magar ap ki post dekh kar boht kuch hasil hua faida hua bohat kuch sikhne krne ko mila.
    Thankssssss

  16. Mai sandy hu ek ladki se bhut pyr karta hu vo bhi karti hai aur ab usne brkp kar liya lekin jab bhi baat hoti hai meri usse to vo bolti hai mai tumse hi pyr karti hu but reltion mai nai rehna chati koi bataao mai kya karu

  17. mai ek ladki se pyaar karta hu jaanta hu wo kabhi meri nahi ho sakti lekin phir bhi mai khud ko sambhaal nahi paa raha hu
    ek samasya ye bhi hai ki meri majboori hai ki wo hardam mere saamne rahti hai

  18. Mai ek ladki se bhut pyar krta hu wo bhi hmse krti thi lekin wo spna dekhi sadi k liye boli job pkd lo phir sadi krenge mai bhi din raat kr k 3 years me job pkd liya lekin uske ghar wale sadi mujhse nhi krna chahte or ladki bhi mna kr di bol rhi mai apne papa k khusi k liye sadi kr rhi hu kisi or se sadi k liye uske ghar walo ne use torchar bhut kiya h 20 dino se baat nhi hue meri usse bhut rona aa rha meri job police me lagi hai or abhi trainig me hu 31 march ko khatm hoga in 20 dino me use msg krta hu lekin reply nhi krti kya kren marne ka man kr rha bhut dard sah k job pay h lekin uske bina sub bekar h mai use door nhi hona chahta kaise mnau use april me hm dono court mairige krne wale the maine apni sallery se apne liye kuch nhi liya uske.liye jewellery bnwa di sub wo sub bhul gai hm dono ka pyar 4 yers se jada ho gya mai uske bina ji nhi skta plz helph me mai uske liye kuch bhi kar skta hu

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