5 Anger Management Tips for Children

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5 Anger Management Tips for Children

5 Anger Management Tips for Children

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Anger is a good thing. Yes, I said it right 🙂 . Because it’s normal and an emotion like any other we experience. Though parents always need this answer since their child’s behavior is just that awful. No one wants a child who is disrespectful and aggressive. It simply doesn’t look good when they act out and it affects everyone in their presence too. Now back to the good part, anger is controllable. So leave that traditional approach of shouting and smacking behind, it never really worked. Children need to be shown how to deal with anger in a healthier manner. It will be an important life skill you provide for your child to solve any problem and negative emotions they face in life.

 

Anger is a good thing. Yes, I said it right 🙂 . Because it’s normal and an emotion like any other we experience. Though parents always need this answer since their child’s behavior is just that awful. No one wants a child who is disrespectful and aggressive. It simply doesn’t look good when they act out and it affects everyone in their presence too. Now back to the good part, anger is controllable. So leave that traditional approach of shouting and smacking behind, it never really worked. Children need to be shown how to deal with anger in a healthier manner. It will be an important life skill you provide for your child to solve any problem and negative emotions they face in life.

Express their Feelings

Children at this development stage don’t realize what they should be doing with their anger. And aggressive behavior is all that they know. To curb it as parents we can show them how to express their feelings. This will lessen the chance for a walking time bomb as their anger is not built up inside for so long. When a child is capable of expressing themselves to the full extent it releases tension as they are felt they are heard.

Children can follow this simple sentence structure to help them out. I feel… when you… because… I need…. And used along the lines of this, “I feel angry when you don’t give me that ball because I want to play with it. In the beginning, parents can use questions to guide their child through the sentence. Be persistent and overtime they will then naturally tell you independently.

5 Anger Management Tips for Children

Release Anger

Go over a walkthrough with your child. Show them that there are other ways in ridding anger. One of which is using coping techniques. Try them out and discover which one your child takes a liking to the most. Either, take a deep breath, count to ten, drink a glass of water, distract them suddenly with something of interest (like a toy or food) or go to another corner of the room to play. Pretending to hit the other person ‘at fault’, scolding and slapping only reinforce bad behavior.

Divert Anger

As children will be children there still will be times when things can get out of hand. And times that such coping techniques will be thrown out the door. This is when the child needs to be removed from the situation immediately. Ideally a separate room that is empty. Known as ‘Time Out, is traditionally used as punishment for the child to think about what they have done wrong. For most children they would be still screaming and shouting in this room but, a point will be eventually reached when they are over it (usually exhausted) and become somewhat reciprocal and begin to calm down.

Praise your Child

Saw your child attempting these coping strategies? Congratulations parent 🙂 . And be sure to praise your child every time they make progress too, no matter how small it may seem. Watch your child lights up as they are full of pride that they did something good. This will give them the motivation to keep it up. And if suitable, offer a treat for a job well done. Moreover, parents will be relieved since your child becomes independent in managing their anger as anger fits and punishment will reduce drastically.

5 Anger Management Tips for Children

Provide Consequences

And when they are unable to apply these coping strategies negative consequences are a must. If left again the child will feel it’s fine to behave poorly because they will always get way with it. Make it clear to them that they will have a treat but that which is too small and or lose certain privileges altogether. Stand by it and follow through.

Set an Example

Want your child to not overreact, then you need to lead by example. If they catch you out in shouting, swearing and losing the plot, it will be only natural for them to deal with their angry inappropriately too. And for those parents who try to hide their anger altogether, it is a good thing since children don’t need to be exposed to adult issues. Though for the little problems, it makes for a fine example when parents demonstrate how to cope with anger well. And in those time that you do lose the plot, be sure to apologize to your child for seeing it and then reinforce how you dealt with the problem rightly.

If the problem persists seek professional help to determine if there is an underlying health problem. Any question or query? I would love to hear from you. Leave a comment below or Whatsapp me on +91 95 06 505059

Until next time.
Jasmine

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